As promised, here is the start of my online journal. Please check out the “About” section, where I have provided more details about Ralf’s story and why I decided to start this blog. As my first official post, I thought it would be nice to tell you a little more about how Ralf and I met and our story as a couple. Before our wedding day, our amazing videographer, Ed Ballart with Belvedere Stories, had us complete a questionnaire together. Below are some excerpts. These were written by both Ralf and myself:
How did you meet?
We initially met in passing while on a class trip freshman year of high school. We reconnected junior year when we were placed in the same SAT classroom. Through the help of mutual friends, we quickly fell head over heels and became high school sweethearts.
How did Ralf propose?
Well, first we must explain the significance of the location. We first started “talking” in May of 2004. Keeping with the Columbus/Lourdes tradition, we both participated in the annual pilgrimage to Marco Island for Memorial Day Weekend. Maeghan went with her family while Ralf jumped into a car with nothing but a bathing suit, a twenty-dollar bill, and his friends. It was there that they shared their first kiss. Several months later they found themselves in Marco Island again on a traditional family vacation, where they shared another first – the first time they said, “I love you.” Over the years they have traveled there many times and have many wonderful memories.
So, back to the proposal. In July of 2010, Ralf took advantage of Maeghan’s horrible sense of direction and naiveté. He led her to believe that they were going to a family dinner in West Palm Beach. Little did Maeghan know that they were traveling a little bit further west in the complete opposite direction. Earlier that day, Ralf had taken Maeghan’s dad, Peter, to lunch to request his daughter’s hand in marriage. After receiving his blessing, he went to Maeghan’s house and packed her bags (he even packed make-up remover and tampons just in case!) without her knowing. Ralf had made reservations for dinner and hotel accommodations. After dinner, he took Maeghan for a walk on the beach with a blanket and champagne not far from the spot where they first kissed and said “I love you.” It was there where Ralf got down on one knee and Maeghan began to sob inconsolably. It was perfect.
How would your friends describe you as a couple?
We are known as the “go with the flow”, laid back, “whatever you want to do” couple. We are very easy to please and get along with.
What are your favorite things to do you like to do together? (ex. boating, traveling etc.)
Movies, kayaking on our lake, eating, drinking, dancing, playing with our new puppy (Charlie- an adorable, incredibly annoying French Bulldog), exercising (whenever Ralf is able to motivate Maeghan)…
Ralf, tell us a bit about Maeghan. What do you love about her? How does she complement you? What does she do that makes you happy? What does she do that drives you crazy (pet peeves, etc.), what are you most looking forward to after you marry her?
First and foremost, I am going to nip that fourth question in the butt. NOTHING Maeghan does drives me crazy or is a pet peeve (I am not as dumb as I look). What do I love about Maeghan? Maeghan is my best friend. She is like me in so many ways and different at the same time. Anyone who knows us would say we are two bodies sharing one soul. As cliché as it sounds, she truly is my other half. We share the same likes/dislikes when it comes to food, music, recreational activities, and life in general. We compliment each other in every aspect two persons can connect with- emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, physically, etc. Maeghan is one of the most honest people I know and has the biggest heart. She wears her mind on her sleeve (which is not always a good thing, but at least she is honest). She never puts herself first and will do anything for her family, friends and patients. While having such a compatible mate who thinks almost exactly the same way as I do does helps our relationship blossom day after day, it is also a double edged sword. You see, thinking the exact same way as someone makes you the perfect opponent in an argument. Maeghan knows what I am I thinking before I think it and is always two steps ahead of me. She knows exactly how and what to say to push my buttons and to get under my skin. It drives me crazy but I love it at the same time. I would not have it any other way.
Maeghan, tell us a bit about Ralf. What do you love about him? How does he complement you? What does he do that makes you happy? What does he do that drives you crazy (pet peeves, etc.), what are you most looking forward to after you marry him?
Ralf is the most selfless, big-hearted person I know. He is more than I could have ever dreamed of or asked for in a life partner. He supports me, builds me up, and believes in me when I don’t believe in myself. Anyone who knows us knows that we are so alike in so many ways. We compliment each other. He keeps me grounded when I get over-emotional and fly off the handle. By the same token, Ralf is also the most infuriating person because he knows just how to press my buttons when we argue. I wouldn’t have it any other way.