Along the Broken Road

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

In 6th and 7th grade, I had an amazing English teacher. She impacted me in ways bigger than she probably realizes, and I attribute my love for writing (and proper grammar, might I add) to everything she taught me. She may not even remember saying this, but one day during class -while my classmates and I were probably being whiney little brats and complaining about something insignificant- she said, “The only thing in life that has no solution is death.”

After a morning trip to the bank, I was on the phone with insurance companies most of the day trying to get all the necessary paperwork together to file claims. I found myself becoming very frustrated and feeling like I couldn’t deal. How many hoops must I jump through to gain access to funds that my husband responsibly made sure to secure should the unexpected ever occur, that I will need to be able to raise our son on my own, that will help me financially but will never fill the void in my life or in my heart? Why so much red tape? Why does all of this have to be so difficult? Then, the memory of what my wise teacher once said popped into my head. She was SO right!

I was reminded in that moment that having to get on the phone and listen to automated phone menu prompts, having to call multiple institutions to request medical records, having to scan endless amounts of documents into my hard drive – that’s all a piece of cake compared to what I have already been through. Everything will fall into place. I will somehow make it through. The road ahead will be very bumpy and full of twists and turns, but as long as I am alive I will figure it out. I don’t think I will ever sweat the small stuff again.

31 comments

  1. Maria

    Maeghan, no se si hablas espanol pero he querido comunicarme contigo. No nos conocemos y se lo que estas pasando, lo siento en mi corazon, he sentido tu dolor muy dentro de mi pecho y no ha pasado un solo dia desde el 14 de Marzo que no piense en ti y siempre estas en mis oraciones.
    Hace 2 anios mi vida cambio tambien repentinamente y aun sigo viviendo una situacion muy muy dificil. Mi esposo fue diagnosticado con cancer de estomago y le dieron 4 meses de vida y aunque aun esta vivo, los tratamientos a los cuales ha sido sometido para alargarle la vida han ido destruyendolo poco a poco y aveces me pregunto que es mas dificil en la vida, si perder a tu ser amado repentinamente o verlo consumirse poco a poco, gritando del dolor, sufrir con el avance de la enfermedad y no poder hacer nada para ayudarlo y como explicarle a tus hijos que Dios nos ama. Pero Dios nos da lla fortaleza cada dia para enfrentar los retos del dia a dia. si me hubieran dicho hace 2 anios que todo esto me hiba a pasar yo hubiera dicho que no podria soportarlo sin embargo aqui vamos de la mano del Senor. No te sueltes de su mano, por muy triste que sea y por muy incomprensible a nuestros ojos JAMAS PIERDAS LA FE. QUE DIOS DE SIGA BENDICIENDO y guiando cada dia para lograr cumplir el proposito que el tiene para ti y tu baby.

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  2. Lolita

    As I read your writing I can help but cry and cry, I am so sad for your pain, for what YOU are going through… I know that God is with you, giving you all the strength needed, comforting you, and even carrying you, I hope that our thoughts, prayers and love somehow lessen your pain. Although I do not know you I find my self thinking about you and hoping that with each and everyday your memories are more and your pain is less. God bless you and your son always!!!!!

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  3. Christy Romero

    “We cannot do great things on this earth. We can only do small things with great love.” Mother Teresa

    God has chosen you to be an inspiration to many. And He is carrying you through all of this even if you may not feel Him at times. You are right, everything will fall into place. Just one task at a time.

    Praying daily for you. May God continue to give you strength and peace.

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  4. Maria Serralta-Valera

    Oh Meaghan, this post couldn’t have said it better. When my brother died in a motorcycle accident six years ago, he had made me beneficiary of all his insurance policies so that I, being a single mom, could raise his two children whom he had full custody of. I asked myself the same questions, “why would anyone make this so hard and painful? Haven’t I been through enough? ” I was, like you, just trying to get what was mine, what was for his children. I had to go through endless phone calls, emails, faxes…it was so overwhelming! So I just want to say, I know EXACTLY what you mean and I want you to know it will definitely all fall into place. Take deep breaths, pray, and take it one phone call at a time. Still praying for you and Mason. Hang in there. Hugs

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  5. Grethel

    Thanks for sharing and reminding us not to sweat the small stuff. I admire your spirit and strength. The grace with which you are handing such a painful loss is commendable! I pray for you and baby Mason everyday but I truly believe you’re an example to all of us. Hang in there Maeghan! God bless you! 😊

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  6. Nivia

    Your words are very encouraging and realistic. I may not comment but I have followed you from day 1. Sometimes people go through life and do not grow spiritually. Life is a big test of our faith in God. He will give you strength as a daily dosage. When you feel the worst pray for him to lift you. Your boy will be your purpose, he will be your strength and every time your baby smiles at you, smile back and be reminded that your hubby lives in him. He left you the best gift a woman could ever have. God bless you and Mason.

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  7. Nancy

    Very true. You don’t me but I know your story through mutual friends on fb. Be strong, I know easier said than done. That is why I pray for you and your precious son every day.

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  8. Elisa Garcia-Prats

    Every day that passes you will be blessed with Gods unending love and glory. You inspire us all to make joy from all that is important and dismiss all that is not. We are all praying for you and baby Mason everyday to help you find your way. You will and are! Keep writing for it is you vehicle to awareness. May God bless you and keep you and Mason always in his heart.

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  9. Ana C. Gonzalez-Garcia

    Thank you for reminding all of us that this is something we should all live by. After all, our health is the one thing we all take for granted, until we are slapped in the face with an illness, or sometimes, death. You have carried this incredible loss and grief with so much courage. I believe your son is the one that is giving you that strength. I keep praying for you and everyone who is in your situation. God will continue to bless you, in fact, he already did with your angel in your womb. God bless you!

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  10. Maria

    Omg I still to this day tell my kids those words ” death is the only thing on earth that has no solution”
    Take a day @ a time, hold on to your faith! God bless and guide both of you always.

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  11. Marlene

    Thank you for that! So true an i have to constantly remind my self of that. Especially everytime i think k of what you have gone through an still going through. Thank you for your words, they mean so much to me. God bless you and your baby mason.

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  12. Gina Rodriguez

    Each day is a new beginning that God give us in life. My prayers and thoughts are always with you and your family. I leave you this verse from the bible.
    Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6
    May God give you his peace that transcends all understanding. With love and blessings!
    Gina Rodriguez

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  13. Claudia

    Very true, I am also widowed. I was married to my high school sweetheart also. As you and Ralf , we grew up together got married and had 2 beautiful children. I thank the Lord every day for them. ……and now he’s gone. People always tell me I’m so strong because I don’t let anything get to me. Of course I don’t. The most important person in the world besides my children was taken from me , how could paperwork or the daily struggles of life get to me after such a loss. People like us in this situation that we never asked for have a different outlook on life and we know all too well how precious the gift of life and love is. I know I was luckier than most to have spent my life with such a wonderful man .
    One hour at a time one task at a time one day at a time. You will make it and you will see your husband again in your son’s eyes. I see my husband everyday in my children and am so grateful. Sending you prayers xoxo

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  14. hooliganmomma

    Thank you for sharing this..absolutely true..and I’ll probably remember it for the rest of my life as well. Thank you for sharing your story, your pain, your hope and your fears with us. We absolutely are no replacement for the love of your life..but we will rally around you and hold you up. Blessings to you as you continue this new journey of your life. xo

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  15. Maru Carreras

    My sweet Baby, never did I know that these words were meant for you at this time! I love you very much because you were always such a special student in so many ways. I always told you that you were going to be “BIG” one day, but never did I think that you were going to be this BIG! You are touching so many lives, in so many different ways, for so many different reasons, that as I told you before you need to write a book. I am proud of you beyond words, and know that as many lessons as I may have taught you, you are now teaching me and many the meaning of love, dedication, and resilient irrepressible faith! Your courage is admirable! I love you and I am with you for whatever you may need!
    Maru, aka Mrs Carreras

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  16. Kiki

    I am proud to call your teacher my Tia & Madrina 😍 Incredible that this past Monday we spoke of you, your story, and your blog. I told her that I was going to look it up. How proud she is to call you her student. She loves you & your family dearly. You are a true inspiration. You & your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

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  17. Monica

    such a powerful lesson that few people live by, but you’ll be such a better mother and person because of it. Keep strong. Keep faith. You are truly inspirational to so many!!! You definitely do your husband proud!!!

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