Love After Life

We never met while you were here on this Earth, but I feel very connected to you. You were the love of the man who now holds my heart. Like him, I have suffered the loss of a great love of my life.

I completely understand how he yearned for you, cried for you after you left – and how a part of him always will. I understand how even now he can be having a completely “normal” day and suddenly see your eyes in the face of a stranger or hear your laugh in the line of a song and be swallowed up in grief all over again. I understand how he may feel guilty at times because his mind occasionally has trouble justifying his right to be in love and feel happy again, even though his heart of hearts knows that happiness is what you would have wanted for him. I understand that while his soul overflows with pride and gratitude every time he gets to witness and share in another milestone with Mason and me, that there is an underlying, eternal ache for all the missed moments that he should have had with you and Anthony. A pain that is ever present but that he has learned to live with because he’s had to.

I understand that I will never be you, because, how could I be? You were the only you there could ever be. And from what I’ve been able to gather from stories, pictures, and my own imagination, you were special and beautiful both inside and out. I understand that he doesn’t need or want me to be you, either. His heart has grown despite his suffering and has made additional room for me, with your space completely intact forever. As it should be.

You were you and left too soon. It was completely out of your control.

I am me, and I’m still here. And while it’s impossible to know for how long, I hope to honor your legacy by giving him all the love you planned to. I know that I can, because it’s the same love that I envisioned giving to Ralf until old age. But like you, he had to leave sooner than anticipated.

We move forward into this unpredictable life, but you are and always will be a part of our story.

So will Anthony.

So will Ralf.

And what a crazy, tragically beautiful story it is.

I hope we make you proud.

17 thoughts on “Love After Life”

  1. Your words are written beautifully. Erica and I were friends many years ago. I had the wonderful chance in this this lifetime to have this beautiful woman cross my path in life for a reason. Erica’s life was taken to soon, as your husband’s. The world will shine a little less with two precious souls not in it. I will say, Vinnie crossed your path for a reason. I see you two need , love and protect each other’s heart. There is a shine back in Vinnie’s eyes that has been missing. Pictures speak a thousand words. You seem to be an incredible, beautiful, strong and intelligent woman who loves him very much. Please take care of one another. I can see the love is there.
    Stay healthy, stay strong
    – an old friend of Erica’s ❤️


  2. May God continue blessing you with love, faith and healing. Your life story is so inspiring and healing to those who have loved and lost love ones. May God’s love continue to fill your heart and soul. May you always share your feelings that you so well express with beautiful words of Love and Hope.


  3. Wow! I’m so moved by this, literally brought tears to my life. I haven’t experience nearly what you have but empathize with you deeply— you have a gift with words, translating searing pain into beautiful lines.


    1. Dear Meaghan and Vinnie,
      I am your great aunt on Vinnie’s side of the family. I have been following your words and have felt like I know you. You and Vinnie have experienced the unbelievable in your lives, but for a reason beyond our understanding you have found each other. You both have shared similar loss in losing your beloved husband , Ralf,and Vinnie’s beautiful wife, Erika. I had the privilege of knowing Erika, and you have stated in your words, how she was in her short life on earth.
      I wish you , Mason and Vinnie a future filled with good health, joy, love and many many years together as husband and wife. While of course, I could not meet Anthony, I share the loss of Erika and their unborn baby boy. I am glad Mason is part of my nephew’s new life now, and I am glad Mason has Vinnie to provide a fatherly relationship with him. Although you and Vinnie have had lost your spouses, I am grateful you have each other to console, love and support each other.
      With love and compassion,
      Aunt Mari
      (Marietta Frisicaro Burgio)


  4. Maeghan you are so awesome, but by far this post is the best, putting all pieces together, a true gesture of humble and unselfish love. AMAZING!!


  5. Such beautiful words….Our beautiful angels, Erica and Anthony, were very special and our hearts will always ache for them, as will Vinnie’s…..and yours for Ralf. We are so happy that Vinnie found you and Mason (I am sure that divine intervention had much to do with it)…..May God Bless all of you and thank you for sharing such lovely thoughts with all of us.


  6. Maeg! I just left to Orlando. Do you have plans Sunday? Maybe we can keep in touch would love to see you guys and stop by on the way down.

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  7. Meagan, you are one amazing woman! We have never met but i know of you through many circles: Lourdes, Columbus, UMH. I am not a widow and i hope not to be for a long time but by reading your posts, i know who will inspire me to look forward and move on. Vince is lucky to have found you and Mason will be proud of the mommy you will be to him!


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